Wednesday, June 18, 2014

So You Think It's Easy: To be Alone

So You Think It's Easy: To be Alone: Alone or Lonely?   How can you tell if you are just alone or lonely? I believe that it is important to distinguish between the two in o...

To be Alone

Alone or Lonely?  How can you tell if you are just alone or lonely?

I believe that it is important to distinguish between the two in order to move away from it or to enjoy just being there.  I am often alone.  I am sometimes lonely.  Being alone does not necessarily mean I am lonely.  Today I am grappling with the question, Are you lonely or just alone?
I find more and more that my most intimate companion these days is my computer, smartphone or tablet.  Being from the old school, I find it hard to be satisfied with the feel of a plastic keyboard.  I still long for the human touch.  Communicating via these electronic devices is no fun.  I think it is turning our society into a cold place to live, which makes being alone very lonely.  Texting has got to be the worst of them all.  It  keeps us from being present in our relationships.  It is so easy to disassociate yourself with a text.  At least when we had just a telephone between us, we could still feel the person on the other side of the phone line because we could hear them breathing, laughing, talking, crying, being sad, or being happy.  We could still feel them being in the moment;being present.  "What happened to looking someone you once cared about  in the eyes, reaching out a hand, saying “I’m sorry” in the warm, human way that once was just what you did. The relationship may not go on but I can’t imagine that an edgy text or email helps build strong relationships or makes for healthy ends" (Reich, 2013).  What can we do to insure that we are still able to feel, love, and care in the way that really matters?  Touching, caressing, kissing, making love.. are all a part of the human psyche that is so important to our happiness.  I believe that this sort of intimacy makes the difference between being alone or lonely...

Reference: Reich, M. (2014) Blog; Retrieved from: http://www.marciareich.com/2013/05/our-young-people-are-lonely/